Your Personality Guide

Stress is one of the biggest problems of the modern day. Rather than talking about how stress causes all kinds of diseases and creates a hell in life, let us find out how to analyze our stressors. After that we can probably decide how to handle stress better. Let us begin.

Have you taken time lately to decide what stresses you?  Many times we find ourselves feeling stressed but we really can’t put our finger on what it is that makes us feel so stressed.  There are typical stressors that everybody faces and each person needs to take time to discover which ones are the biggest ones for them.  Sometimes stress can be good as it gives us energy but other times it can zap all of our energy.

If you took time to think about your life and what causes you stress, you would be able to work around it or maybe stop it all together.  The important thing is to break the cycle of being stressed long enough to identify which factors are unhealthy stressors and which ones you could turn into around to help you.

When a group of people were asked what their greatest stressors were, the usual topics were discussed.  Work was the number one stress that most people feel and relationships seemed to be the next important thing.  Work is something that everyone has to do and learning to deal with the stress is a normal, healthy way to approach the problem.  If the stress can’t be handled or dealt with in a healthy fashion, then it might be time to reconsider what it is that you do to make money.  Many people have changed careers in midlife and that is one way to get rid of work stress.

Relationships were the next on the list of top stressors.  That can include parents, families, or friends in the level of relationships.

1. Visualize The Best-

If you have ever tried, you may have noticed how difficult it is to break the habit of criticizing yourself. It’s like saying, “Don’t think of elephants having sex!” But if a bucket is empty you can’t get it full by trying to get “the empty” out. When your self-esteem and confidence are low, you have a similar situation, so instead, set aside a few minutes twice a day to think positively about yourself and confidently about what’s coming up in your day or week. These warm feelings will help you to feel better.

2. Daily Self care-

When people feel badly about themselves they usually don’t take very good care of themselves. They may take good care of everyone else, but always leave themselves for last. For healthy self-esteem and confidence, every day put time into yourself. Exercise, dress nicely, make nice meals for yourself, keep your home the way you like it, and spend at least an hour of each day doing what you want. All these things are ways of showing yourself that you are important and your happiness and welfare matter.

3. Compliment Others And Spend time With Good People Who Are Positive-

Mutual admiration societies rock. Mutual criticizing societies suck.

4. Focus On Goals-

Having focused goals and working on them steadily will give you a sense of competency and accomplishment. When you are able to predict progress you develop confidence and with that predictability you start to know you will accomplish what you set out to do.

5. Keep A Journal-

Collecting positive thoughts about yourself and being able to read it back when you’re feeling low can help you to never lose sight of your qualities and accomplishments.

6. Positive Reflection-

At the end of the day it is much better to look back and review accomplishments than it is to think of what hasn’t gotten done and has to be done tomorrow, or to dwell on what you feel you have done wrong or should have done differently.

7. Share Your Accomplishment And Talent-

We’re often taught not to be proud of ourselves, but friends actually love hearing about our successes and want to share in our happiness. Sharing and celebrating are very important parts to feeling good about us and having confidence. When we share, our friends can then help us to see ourselves as we really are.